Dating an older woman has been quite the rage of late. Women over 35, have never felt more desired by men in their 20s and early 30s than they are now—even more than when they were that age. So if you’re busy seeking women in the 21-29 age range, you need to widen your horizons. Big time.
Here are a number of reasons why you should be going after that fly older mama who you know is not taken
She’s got a life.
And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own place, her own money. It’s comforting to know that her life will go on when I’m not around.
Also, the fact that an older woman has her own money means she likely worked hard to get it. Should you automatically go dutch or expect her to pay? Never, you want to impress, treat the older lady with some bank to a nice meal, because she appreciates the value. Unlike some age groups who only know of prices.
She knows what she wants and doesn’t want
At this point, she’s not afraid to say it. In the bedroom? Go ahead and try to shock her. The kinky stuff? If she hasn’t tried it herself, she’s likely considered it. Outside the bedroom as well. Do not buy into the idea that all older women are “desperate.” Some are, just like some older men are too.
Unlike the 26-year-olds who feel they’ll drop dead if not engaged by 27, married at 28, and paged by 30, she’s looking at life a little differently now. That’s not to say she doesn’t want marriage/kids, she’ll be pretty clear about it up front. Because she has a little life on her, she may not have the rigid checklist that a younger girl has.
She wants you, she doesn’t need you; .
If she’s gotten here independently, regardless of past relationships, she’s gone through enough to know she can survive just about anything. And she is sure she won’t break into a million pieces if she doesn’t have a boyfriend.
And whereas younger women are putting you through the paces to see if you can provide her with a life, an identity, and a future, an older woman already knows who she is and what she wants to do—she’d just love someone to share it with.
She can make you a better man.
Someone dated a 40-year-old when he was 22 and new to city life. “She picked the restaurants, paid for things, took me places. She had access to a world I didn’t,” he said. Now he’s in his mid 40s and married with a kid, and remarks that relationship was critical to making him the man he is now.
“For that period of time, the roles were reversed. She had the power. And it felt great—who doesn’t want to be taken care of? That’s when I understood what it was to be in that role, to be someone’s b@$^#, essentially. And I now appreciate it because it’s my turn to take care of someone else.”